Janine S. Robertson
2 months ago
COVID-19 has ushered almost everybody towards communicating on the Internet, so even if you were reluctant to try dating sites before now, your attitude towards them may have thawed a bit. After all, online is where a lot of us now do most of our socializing.
Here’s a rundown of some good dating websites and apps, a variety that will help you to meet new people and get a little more spice in your life.
Bumble is a free dating app where women have to message first, and if the guy leaves it longer than 24 hours to reply then he loses his chance at a date. That time limit may seem pushy but it discourages procrastinators, so if you’re someone who puts off getting in touch then maybe try a different app.
The fact that women must make the first move tends to weed out the more insecure men, which naturally leads to an abundance of overly confident males (which may or may not be a good thing – it’s up to you). And Hey, if it’s good for Sharon Stone (Who recently admitted her profile got blocked by the app admins after users reported it as fake) – It’s good enough for us!
Overall, Bumble is a fine dating app and is an ideal place to start your quest.
Tinder had a reputation for being the ‘in’ place for casual hookups, and it still is, but it’s also evolved to be good for more besides, dating, friendship, and even meeting the love of your life. It’s the app that popularized the “swipe” motion for selecting and rejecting dates. The way it works is you see a profile picture on your phone and swipe right if you like the look of that person and left if you don’t. If the other person liked your picture then you get notified. From there you can connect and chat, get to know them, all at your own pace. Simple!
Profiles are short, which encourages quick decisions, So you’ll have to dig deeper (if you want to) once you’re matched with someone to find out more.
OkCupid has much longer and more in-depth profiles than Tinder because members fill out a form with lots of questions. It feels a bit like taking a personality test, but it’s worth it though because it makes the platform better at matching you with people who have similar interests.
OkCupid is now owned by the same company that owns Tinder, so some similarities have crept in. There’s more of a focus on swiping and you can no longer message someone before you’re matched with them. It’s well worth a try.
The Hinge app also goes for more information, including political leanings, religion, alcohol consumption, and even whether you want to start a family. Hinge’s prompts make it easy to create an engaging profile, and its intentions seem to be pure! Their slogan is “designed to be deleted,” as in, they want to match you with that special someone so you’ll never need to use the app again, so try it if that’s what you’re looking for.
Coffee Meets Bagel
Winner of the oddest name for a dating app competition, Coffee Meets Bagel aims to deliver curated quality matches each day at noon, and for some reason, it calls them “bagels”. It offers ice-breaker suggestions and has comprehensive profiles. The app holds your hand but it’s a little confusing to use and gimmicky, and the frequent notifications to send messages to matches can feel pushy. This doesn’t sound like much of a recommendation so far, but it’s on the list because it works, with some members reporting perfect matches.
The League styles itself as an “elite dating app”, and it certainly makes you jump through a few hoops. You need to apply, listing your job title, where you went to college, and LinkedIn profile. If you live in a big city then you might find there’s a long time to wait because there are more applications to be reviewed. The whole exclusivity aspect can be appealing to some and not so appealing to others, so it’s really up to you. Even if you’re not accepted, don’t despair. Chances are, some of the people you find on the league will probably be on other dating apps anyway, just like you!
LGBTQ members are welcomed on most apps, but it’s still nice to have your own place that’s just for you and yours. Her is for lesbian, bisexual, and queer women, but the app is a little buggy and glitchy which can frustrate your efforts. If you can get past that it might be worth a try though.
eHarmony was among the first online dating sites, promising to match couples based on “29 dimensions” of compatibility and interests. Yes, that means lots of form filling again, but they have to be thorough, right? It’s free to check out your prospective matches’ profiles but unlocking all the service features means you’ll need to sign up for a three-month or six-month plan. That’s no hardship though because they offer a money-back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied.
So there you have it, a lot of good quality options that will put you in touch with interesting people who might just turn out to be the best thing in your life ever. Even if the app you use isn’t perfect, it’s still light years ahead of hoping that you bump into Miss, Ms. or Mr. Right at the supermarket, so give a dating app a chance today and see what you’ve been missing.
Brian E. Murphy